What is Authentic Relating?
Discovering Deeper Connections in Everyday Life
In a world buzzing with superficial interactions—endless scrolls on social media, quick texts, and polite small talk—many of us crave something more genuine.
Authentic Relating (AR), is a simple yet transformative practice that invites us to connect on a deeper level. Whether you’re chatting with a friend, navigating a work meeting, or building intimacy with a partner, AR helps foster relationships that feel alive, nourishing, and truly human.
At its core, Authentic Relating is about expressing your true thoughts, feelings, and experiences while fully honouring those of others.
It’s not about following rigid rules or putting on a mask; instead, it’s a dance of authenticity and empathy.
Imagine sharing what’s really going on inside you—your joys, fears, or curiosities—and being met with curiosity rather than judgment.
This practice draws from modern relational science and ancient wisdom, reminding us that we’re wired for connection.
As Dr. Gabor Maté notes, secure attachments thrive when we can express ourselves freely, healing old patterns where we learned to hide to stay safe.
Key principles make AR accessible and powerful:
Authenticity: Be honest about your inner world, integrating body sensations, emotions, and thoughts.
Relating: See the other person as a whole being, creating a shared space where both perspectives flow.
Presence: Focus on the here and now, following what feels alive rather than scripted conversations.
Revelation: Shine light on hidden patterns, turning potential conflicts into opportunities for growth.
The benefits?
AR combats loneliness, reduces anxiety, and builds empathy, leading to more fulfilling relationships across all areas of life. It’s like therapy in action—softening emotional wounds and sparking creativity and belonging.
In this publication, we’ll dive into AR practices, stories, and tips to bring more depth to your connections. Join us on this journey—because real relating starts with you.